My dad passed away on April 15, 2004, just a few weeks before I graduated from high school. He was a good man who worked hard all his life. I didn’t live with him day-to-day because my parents divorced when I was two, but our relationship was as close as it could be without living in close proximity. As I think about him, there are things I wish my father taught me.
Over the years, some incredible men have poured into me and have helped me navigate life. As I reflect on the things I want my boys to know as they grow up, I can’t help but think about the things I wish my dad had said. Here are 5 things I wish my father taught me that I will be sure to teach my boys.
1. I wish my dad taught me about sex and dating.
We never talked about it, ever. But if we had, I probably would not have made as many mistakes with girls as I did growing up. I probably wouldn’t have struggled with pornography. I wish my dad would have taught me about taking care of a woman’s heart instead of just using her body.
As I think about the men I want my boys to become, I want to make sure I teach them the things I have had to learn on my own.
I want to make sure they know how amazing sex can be and that God designed it for our pleasure within marriage. I want to make sure they know purity is not just about waiting for marriage; it’s about keeping your whole life pure.
2. I wish my dad taught me how to cook.
Growing up, we ate out every single meal. I am not sure I ever saw my dad turn on the stove. He never showed me how to balance food, and honestly, I’m not sure he knew how. Early in my childhood, I started overeating. I started ordering full value meals in second grade. To this day, I still struggle with my eating habits. I not only want to teach my kids what healthy eating means, but I want to show them how to do it. I love to grill, smoke brisket, and try new recipes in the kitchen. I want my kids to learn how, too….